DEAR ABBY: Shortly after my daughter’s surgery, I got a text that I had received a food delivery gift from a friend.
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The text came from the delivery service, with a photo of the package sitting at the front door. The trouble was, it wasn’t my front door — the package had been delivered to the wrong address.
What would be the polite way to address this? Of course I want to thank the gift-giver, but should I let them know I never actually got the gift?
I’d feel bad having them put even more effort into their gift, as I know those delivery services can be a real hassle. And I wouldn’t expect them to buy it again if, say, the food was redelivered correctly later, but cold.
Thanks for your advice.
— GIFT GONE IN ILLINOIS
DEAR GIFT GONE: Notify the delivery service of the screw-up. Then let your friends know you are grateful for their thoughtfulness, but do not want them charged for something that was misdelivered. They may want to dispute the charge on their credit card.
DEAR ABBY: My husband’s parents divorced 50 years ago, when he was a newborn. Both remarried within a few years. My husband was raised by his mom and stepdad. His mother and father had little contact after their divorce.
Because of that, my husband does not have a close relationship with his biological father, who made little effort to be in his life or the life of our children.
Recently, both of my husband’s stepparents passed away. After their passing, his mom and dad decided to get back together. They told us recently that they plan to remarry.
My husband is having a hard time with their reunion. He feels they are rebounding from the death of their spouses. How can he learn to accept a relationship he doesn’t agree with but ultimately has no control over?
— HISTORY REPEATS IN THE SOUTH
DEAR HISTORY REPEATS: Unless his mother and biological father can resolve the issues that drove them apart in the first place, their remarriage isn’t likely to be successful.
Suggest to your husband that he withhold judgment until he sees how the reunion works out. If he sees his mother is happy, he must accept that although he and his birth father may never be close, this was her choice.
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— UNCLE J. IN MASSACHUSETTS
DEAR UNCLE J.: That would be a lovely gesture. If you didn’t, it could cause resentment when the children become old enough to realize they were being treated as “less than.”
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