Sometimes it’s tough to write about personal finance and make it fresh, but the intersection of a high-profile relationship and the recent Valentine’s Day, is just the ticket!
Related Articles
Traveling internationally? Order foreign currency before you go
Social Security is not enough: How to set up alternative retirement income
So you got a raise? Here’s what to do with the money
Why talking about money is crucial in a relationship
Survey: Most say men should pay for first date in hetero couples
In fact, when Taylor Swift kissed boyfriend Travis Kelce to celebrate the Kansas City Chiefs’ victory in the AFC championship game, my mind wandered and I thought: If they were to get married, would they sign a prenuptial agreement? (Yes) Would they keep their own money managers? (Probably) Would they combine some of their accounts? (Maybe)
All kidding aside, these are questions that many couples ask themselves, especially as people are getting married later in life.
Forty years ago, the median age at first marriage was 25.4 for men and 22.8 for women. Compare that with 2023, when it was 30.2 and 28.4, respectively. (Our Super Bowl Sweethearts are 34.)
Those extra years mean that couples begin their marriages with well-established patterns and habits about money, for better — and sometimes, for worse.
Maybe the later in life couples have already been living together, but even so, it’s always a good idea to check in with each other about your approach to money.
As every long-lasting couple will tell you, communication is the key. Still, it is challenging to have conversations about finances without judgment, so maybe the best way to start is to acknowledge that everyone carries some emotional baggage about money.
Maybe there is shame, or fear and anxiety, or maybe money represents some family of origin feelings (“my parents always exerted control through money” or “my parents worked so hard to get me here, so I can’t let them down”).
These conversations are not curative, but they are meant to help your partner better understand you and hopefully, allow you to better understand yourself. It will also help you articulate your financial goals, which will shift over time.
After the emotional conversation, the next part should be a breeze! The actual exchange of information should include: the amount of money each of you earns; how much you have saved or invested; your risk tolerance; your outstanding debt and your credit scores.
You should also decide on the division of labor, especially when it comes to bill paying and investing. I am often asked whether or not to combine bank or investment accounts.
The answer is: do what works for both of you. Regardless, both partners must understand whatever system is in effect, including relevant websites, passwords, automatic payments, and any other pertinent information.
The detailing of all of this information will be necessary as you tackle your estate planning. Whether or not you legally tie the knot, it is imperative that partnerships agree to create a will, a power of attorney and a health care proxy, and in some cases, a trust. The process will also include a review of all beneficiary designations on retirement accounts and life insurance policies.
Finally, a word about prenuptial (pre-nup) agreements, legal documents that set forth how you will divide your money and property in the event of divorce or the death of one or both of you.
For our Super Bowl sweethearts, this may seem like a no-brainer, because of the large disparity in wealth, but prenups may also be useful if there are children from a previous marriage, a small business, a family trust, or when assets are owned with others.
If circumstances change after you get married (i.e., the sale of a business or a large, unexpected inheritance), you can draft a “post-nup,” and if you are not planning to get married, there’s a “no-nup,” which can be especially helpful for real estate transactions and estate planning.
Related Articles
Travel Troubleshooter: I canceled my cruise, but my credit card claim is lost at sea
Who was the worst president for inflation?
Nearly all Caltrans under-freeway lease spaces in Bay Area failed fire inspections
Son of former YouTube executive dies on UC Berkeley campus
Santa Clara County selects developer for West Valley teacher housing project
Jill Schlesinger, CFP, is a CBS News business analyst. A former options trader and CIO of an investment advisory firm, she welcomes comments and questions at [email protected]. Check her website at www.jillonmoney.com.
